On Picking Battles

I was thinking the other day about how folks talk to each other. Often times there is a threshold where civility is thrown out the window and the gloves come off. They’re rolling around in the gutter and pulling hair. It’s not fun to watch and even less fun to be dragged into.

I learned as a parent to pick my battles. It isn’t worth arguing over the small stuff. You want to wear a bucket on your head feel free but you aren’t running into traffic. I apply picking my battles to grownups too.

I belong to a group on Ravelry that is one I really enjoy. There is a constant stream of free pattern links being offered. I consider these fiber folk to be some of the most kind and generous on Ravelry. I can’t tell you how many fabulous designers I’ve discovered through this group and how many lovely patterns I’ve gotten for free, more than could be knit in a lifetime.

There is one drawback to this group: their political thread. I believe in discourse. I believe we are each allowed our own opinion. I believe we are allowed to disagree. I believe we are allowed to change our beliefs as we move through life. This thread is maddening to read as someone who believes that the exchange of data and facts is how one discusses a topic they disagree on. Often the discussion turns to attacking the source of someone’s information or even to the person themself. It is always sprinkled with comments of “I have them on ignore so I can’t see what they said.” I chose not to participate for the same reason I didn’t tell H to take the bucket off her head: it wasn’t worth the battle.

Ravelry is a social media puddle compared to the ocean that is Twitter. But both have had a thumb on the scale of balance for years. Free speech was banned on Ravelry before it was banned on the big social media platforms. Now that Elon Musk has bought Twitter there has been rumblings that Twitter will change. It seems there is concern that the thumb will be removed from the scale allowing more voices to be heard, more reach given to those who were silenced.

I believe in free speech. It is a cornerstone of my country. I want everyone to have the right to express their opinion. I want those who I disagree with to be able to say things I disagree with. This is a battle I choose to fight.

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9 Responses to On Picking Battles

  1. yarnmama10 says:

    I fully agree with that. I am mostly silent on social media when it comes to political issues because I don’t always have the facts to present a good support for my position, but I support the right for anyone to do so who chooses to. I am an adult and do have some wisdom and capability to sift information for myself. I hope others can and will do the same. It’s more than just facts sometimes though. There are ideologies at play here and those are much more imbedded, whether they are recognized or not. I know where mine come from but I am afraid many don’t know where theirs come from.

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  2. I’m still a member on Ravelry but don’t participate in any threads. I stopped updating my projects there after they decided to censor certain people. I’m only there to get patterns and ideas.

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  3. Jackie B says:

    I left Twitter a few weeks ago. I miss some of the accounts I used to follow and enjoy but so much of the content is so toxic I feel better for not seeing it!

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  4. I left Ravelry when they banned free speech. I never looked back, too many free patterns out there for someone to tell me what I can and can’t say. Somehow we’ve lost the ability to disagree without being disagreeable. We’ve become a nation of “I can scream louder than you so I should get what I want and you can just piss off” babies. Also, you wrote what I was thinking about this morning. Also, my mom taught me when I was just a kid to pick your battles. Some aren’t worth fighting, this one is.

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  5. chrisknits says:

    Totally agree. I left Ravelry when they started choosing sides. It just wasn’t worth the filth on there. I never went back on the forums, but decided why give my attention to them, I have more patterns than I can hope to knit in my lifetime!! I left Twitter for the same reason, now I am deciding if I want to go back, as I miss info I could find there on subjects I cared about. But overall, I haven’t missed it, so why put another time suck on my plate. I am close to dumping FB and insta, because it’s nothing but here’s an ad we think you want to see, every other post. I want to see the posts of people I care about, not an endless stream of ads!! But I know it’s their revenue source, so what do you do? I use them to connect with family and friends, and a few groups I participate in, so for now it’s worth the ad spam.

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    • The ads everywhere are frustrating. I never got on Facebook or Instagram. Myles has a Twitter but doesn’t use it anymore:) Ravelry is my vice.
      Everything is a trade. Is it worth the time, aggravation, calories or whatever?


  6. kathyreeves says:

    I use Ravelry for pattern hunting, but stay away from their forums. The atmosphere there is so different from the sewing community on Pattern Review, which sticks to sewing. I seldom comment on political stuff…my husband is the expert, he has been watching things for 15 years, and knows the back side of it all, so I generally take his version, and then look for myself when I think a fact check is in order. It’s incredible how far things have gone in 5 years.


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