A Few Disconnected Things

Today I’ve got just a couple of things rattling around in my head.

First I sometimes forget when I ramble on here that some of our international friends don’t know the meaning of the “slang” terms we use in our everyday life here in the US. I’ll try to do better. In the comments on my February 16th post I give my definition of the word cancelled. If you don’t know what it means, lucky you, give it a read. I tried to explain it in a neutral way. I’m pretty anti cancelling so that bias probably shows.

The FBI is investigating Andrew Cuomo, the governor of New York because of the lack of honest reporting of the death numbers from nursing homes. That is something. I’m not convinced anything will come of it. At least more attention has been brought to the situation.

Here is a quick little topic I’d love to discuss. I’ve said many times that I love when people express their opinion. It’s true. I love when people share how they feel about things. Not only do I learn about views that are different than mine but I also learn about the person doing the talking. Right or wrong of me, I will make a judgment on them. Sometimes I’m really surprised. Sometimes I’m not. Seeing what they say and how they say it tells me a lot about them as a person. It doesn’t change the way I treat the person but it does raise a warning flag.

Here is an example Rush Limbaugh died yesterday after a year long battle with lung cancer. When I first heard the news I had two thoughts: his poor family must be devastated but his pain is gone. I felt the same way when Ted Kennedy died after a battle with brain cancer. I don’t think about the politics first. My compassion is with the family and the pain the person endured. Twitter is full of people celebrating Rush Limbaugh’s death. They are happy he is dead. They are putting the words out. It tells me a lot about them.

I don’t know how we can come together as a society without a shared compassion for something so basic as loss. There are situations where if you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all is the right thing to do. Don’t parents teach that anymore?

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19 Responses to A Few Disconnected Things

  1. I feel deeply for the families of people who die. That being said, RL had not a lot of consideration for the feelings of others; I started actively avoiding listening to him after he left me in tears with some hate-filled, hurtful words. Obviously he didn’t learn that particular lesson from his parents! If people he hurt don’t have forgiveness in their hearts, I can understand the equally hurtful Twitter b-shit.

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    • But who does it help to celebrate the death of a person who won’t read it. It only hurts his family who had no control over his tongue.
      Taking a beat and being a bigger person, doing the kind thing would go a long way in improving the divide in our country. An eye for an eye will only leave everyone blind.

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  2. yarnmama10 says:

    It is disgraceful way to act for the sake of the bereaved no matter what. There are plenty of politicians and well known people who I sharply disagree with, but it is unthinkable that I would publicly dance on their grave, so to speak. It definitely speaks volumes about someone’s heart if they can do such a thing.

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  3. My thoughts were the same, sadness for the passing of a man who was very well loved by many, sadness for his family, thoughts of my brother in law who is also battling lung cancer. Politics didn’t enter into it. We’ve become a nation of mean people, who will say nasty things behind a computer screen that they would never say to someone’s face. Can you imagine walking up to a widow and saying “hope your husband rests in piss!” (Yeah, that was apparently trending) I think, too, those of us of a different generation don’t take the words of celebrities so much to heart – I can’t remember ever being hurt by something said by someone famous, although I have been convinced to buy a few things I didn’t need.

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    • We are becoming a country where it will be acceptable to say hateful things to someone’s face if things continue as they are. It’s one thing to say something on Twitter but another to paint traitor on a person’s driveway. That was done to the lawyer who defended Trump. I’d like to see people condemned by their own side for this bad behavior.

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      • I recall stuff being painted on Nancy Pelosi’s house, too. It’s frightening, honestly. I think we’ve raised a couple of generations of people who don’t think there are consequences for their acts, and in most cases they seem to be right. I see this so often teaching – “How DARE you FAIL me?” My response, “well, you didn’t do a lick of work so you actually failed yourself” is met with astonishment. I wish I knew what the solution is

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      • There are a lot of young people who have had no consequences for their bad behavior. When my daughter was young there was a bully problem in our town. The school instituted a bully program and I think it made things worse. The bullies learned to hide their bad behavior. It never stopped. Empowering the bullied to stand up for themselves and their friends would have curbed the behavior. Teaching personal responsibility might be a start to fixing this mess.

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      • I agree – it’s a tough road, though. I’ve preached this with my grandchildren and been told I’m too tough on them. “There’s no point in lecturing them about bad behavior, they know they did wrong.” Really? If they KNEW, they wouldn’t have done it!

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      • ReginaMary says:

        Ignore the bully and lift up the bullied. The more attention given to the bullying, the more powerful it gets and the more wiley the perpetrator gets. One female student said to me “I don’t care because negative attention is still attention.” That’s when I learned to not feed the beast.

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      • Exactly the way it should be handled.

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  4. chrisknits says:

    It is a sad day. But it is because of the lack of parenting that we are here. No one is taught compassion, nor love of neighbor. Each time my girls were hurt by someone’s words I tried to teach them that they were only words, and to ponder if that person was lashing out because of an unknown crisis in their life. I try to remember this myself. But there is no excuse for dancing on anyone’s grave. It just shows their lack of class. And, apologies to the first commenter, but if you are so driven to tears by someone’s words, it isn’t the person saying them, it’s your struggle with whatever the topic was. How RL felt about anything shouldn’t have been your compass. I pray you have grown as a person and are through whatever that struggle was.

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  5. randomlyerin says:

    I never did agree with what Rush had to say, and was most often outright offended by him. But he was a person and he had a family and they presumably loved him and will mourn his loss. I feel bad for them because any time we lose someone we love it’s hard. And I would never wish cancer on anyone. I watched several of my family, including my father, die from it. My way is most often to not say anything at all in these situations because sometimes the less said, the better.

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    • ReginaMary says:

      Agreed. We need people we disagree with and even take offense to. This is how we form our opinions and values and convictions. How can we learn if we like or dislike sushi if it is never put before us? Personally, I love sushi, so… But, you get my point.

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  6. ReginaMary says:

    This happened when Antonin Scalia died as well. I was NAUSEATED! Apparently the people celebrating don’t mind if they are given the same fanfare? No sure. Do the haters not know that one of his closest friends was RBG?? We need dignity. We are bottom-dwellers in this department. No class what. so. ever.

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    • For much of my life I expected the best of people and I was figuratively kicked in the teeth often. Now I’m on guard a lot of the time.
      When people behave so cruelly about someone they don’t know I really question what kind of person they are. I know it isn’t my job to judge but I find that it saves me heartache to leave these people at the edge of my life and not at the heart of it.
      When RBG died there was such an outpouring from everywhere for her. Just today on TV I saw Trump’s interview when she died. He was visibly shaken. Every death is tragic for someone and people should remember that.

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      • When people were screaming that RBG’s last wish was that her replacement wouldn’t be named till after the election, I commented that if she had really been that concerned, she would have retired before Obama was out of office. I can’t even repeat the names I was called for disparing her sainthood. And when she died, I said nothing except that I was sorry to hear of it. Rejoicing in anyone’s pain is a horrible thing.

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  7. RebSef says:

    Like your post about cancelling people (thank you for explaining that!), I think people can be awful. I have seen posts wishing death and celebrating it and it is shamefully disgusting. We are all people.

    I think that a lot of it is the social media. People have a domain to publicly “name and shame”, often slandering someone. They hide behind their screens, using their words, but have no responsibility for what they say or how awful their words are. I don’t know if it is a genuine entitlement of “free speech” or if it is trolling under the free speech umbrella. But it is saddening and sickening.

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  8. kathyreeves says:

    Love your neighbor as yourself. Who is my neighbor? The person standing in front of you, the person you are talking about. The stranger you just passed on the street. I am afraid that when we as a nation walked away from God, we chose this instead! Ugliness all around.

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