Schedules, Expectations And Letting Go

The new summer schedule, the one where we get up early and get H off to work and then fit in everything else, finally at the end collapse into bed and fall asleep isn’t quite working for me. I am tired all the time which leads to cranky. I suppose treating the weekends like it’s regular summer, staying up late, eating a lot of junk food and doing no chores, isn’t helping at all. I am not doing a very good job of blogging or even taking a few photos for the blog. I won’t mention the disaster that is the house and the neglect it has suffered. I’ve always been a person with expectations. I like to plan and make a vision in my head of what to expect. It makes things so much easier. Unfortunately it also leads to disappointment. I was all about the disappointment when I was younger. My seemingly reasonable expectations were met with utter let down and The Husband would tell me that I expect too much of people. Well I’ve worked really hard the last few years to expect less (I do think it’s sad that that is the way it has to be but my feeling are hurt less often and I am more often surprised when the expectation is very, very low.) Now I’m all about letting go. I just roll with it, whatever it is. I don’t get worked up about anything the way I used to. Yes, I do still curse somewhat loudly when I’m cut off in traffic but if I get stuck behind a semi on the highway of life that just isn’t moving I just turn up the radio and sing along with the songs until things get back on track.

The other night the doorbell rang. No one was expected so I checked out the window to see who it was just as the UPS guy was getting into his truck. I opened the door to find a box addressed to H. Upon opening the box she found the above box of chocolates with a note that said Welcome to (new company name). Her new job sent her candy! Now that was totally unexpected.

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6 Responses to Schedules, Expectations And Letting Go

  1. Vivianne says:

    What a lovely gesture from her company ! And yaaaay for growing older & mellowing – the sky will NOT fall on our heads if we miss the vacuuming for a day or three ๐Ÿ˜€

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  2. Leslie says:

    Yes, I can relate to childhood expectations, disappointed, and today’s learned acceptance with grace.
    What a happy, encouraging surprise for H.

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  4. Kepanie says:

    That was SO nice of her company. Wow!

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  5. YarnyDragonfly says:

    That is one beautiful box of chocolates! I hope H shares with you! ๐Ÿ™‚
    As for expectations, I think it’s okay to have high expectations for yourself (because you have some control over that), but when other people are involved, all bets are off! Either way, flexibility and acceptance help smooth out any bumps in the road and it sounds like that is working for you.

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  6. Pat(ricia) says:

    Truly an unexpected pleasure and surprise for H! Simple gestures, especially the ones totally “random” can make all the difference in the world.

    I’ve come to realize that I don’t have the right to expect anything of anyone. It’s not fair or “right” and who am I to sit in judgement, especially when others aren’t meeting “my high standards” or any standards at all?

    Expectations mostly lead to disappointment, and mostly they are based on our often unreasonable demands of self and others. It’s not fair and all it is is hurtful. Far better to ask the best of oneself and others, whatever “level” that may be … and accept things as they are.

    As for your not feeling up to snuff …. give yourself a break! Stop placing such high expectations on yourself. It’s summer … enjoy the season, the time and realize that it’s okay to “take a break” or be a bit “lazy.” Roll with it in your life … sounds like it’s time to apply your theory to yourself … so be gentle … I know it’s hard …. but who deserves it more? Besides, when life throws the curve ball, even if we were expecting the fast ball … it’s often for a reason … so try to adjust accordingly. Just curse and get it out … and then zen out into knitterly happiness. As a very good friend of mine often repeats to me (cause it’s a hard lesson for me too) …. why worry and stress out over it when you can’t change what it is? Every day and every moment is what it is. So be it.

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