I remember way back when we had decided to adopt a child I was talking to a friend about nature vs. nurture. She said she really thought so much was nature and I disagreed and said I thought that more was nurture. Again last week the topic came up, with different people. I was just listening in on a conversation at one of N’s after school activities (if you’re going to talk loudly in the same room I’m going to listen). They were talking about how so much of their children’s personality, attitude and difficulties are nature, just born right into them. I didn’t speak up but looking at the kids they were discussing and seeing the behaviors they were talking about I thought they were so much like the mothers that an argument could easily be made for nurture. Daily things influence children so much more than what people think. Take Saturday night as an example. The Husband and I took N out to dinner. He eats out pretty regularly but now he has this new thing that he asks. When the waitress brought his meal, he had dessert since he’d had a very late lunch and we were eating out pretty early, he asked me to take a photo of it for the blog. Yeah, you can’t tell me that one’s nature.