I have two children that I parent. I am not their “best friend”. I am their parent. It is my job to guide them through their childhood/young adulthood and mold them into contributing members of society. I take that job seriously. There are times when my children don’t like me very much and frankly, there are times that I don’t like them a whole lot. I set the rules and I run my house, the house in which they live. When they pay the bills and their name is on the deed it will be their house and they will set the rules. I love my children very much and they love me. They have a very clear picture of what is expected and how things work in our family.
It is very easy to have children but extremely difficult to raise them. As I go through my day I see more and more people who aren’t doing the job they should with their children. Saying no isn’t a crime. In many cases it shows more love than saying yes. Setting a good example is what’s important. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say is crucial. Sometimes you need to step back and realize what is important and what isn’t.